Single adults in church oftentimes encounter a type of perception called ambiguity. As a single adult — especially in the church where marriage is so highly celebrated — not knowing how others perceive them can prompt feelings of insecurity in their identity.
There is no one right answer to the question of, “Why am I single?” Nor should there be. Just as humans are complex beings, so, too, are the reasons behind one’s singleness.
As inclusive as the Church strives to be, one group that tends to feel alienated is single adults.
Marriage is a beautiful thing, and highly celebrated in church. But where does that leave single adults?
Though touted as a “jolly” time for most, this time of year can often trigger pain and sadness for many singles.
Nearly half the population of U.S. adults are single, and yet marriage and family continue to be celebrated — even idolized — in the church.
In the case of singleness, singles often ask, “Why am I single?” — both in attempt to control their situation and to find purpose in their pain. Yet the answer is almost never completely straightforward.
What does it look like to grieve a loved one we’ve longed for, but never met?
Since 1970, the population of single adults in the United States has increased by more than 350%.