One effective tool for self-reflection is the pain and peace cycle. By studying the deep-rooted causes and beliefs of our pain, we are better able to identify and disrupt this pain cycle by changing our patterns in thought, and in action.
In an article shared for the RelateStrong | Leadership Series eBook, Jeff (a former pastor and marriage and family therapist) discusses his personal experiences with pornography and shame. From the book: “According to the Christian Newswire, I am not alone in the chronic struggle with shame. It is reported that 68% of Christian men and 50% of pastors confessed to viewing porn weekly."
Addiction is a heavy issue with widespread effects — not only on the user themselves, but on their friends and families. From the pulpit to churchwide programs, here are 8 ways to tackle this serious issue with your church community.
Leading the church when we feel pain, anxiety, or uncertainty of where God wants to move the Church can be exhausting. We are finding ourselves in a crisis within a crisis and many of our communities have been expressing the need for restoration. Every planning meeting about how to do church in the wake of coronavirus now complicated by deep desires to respond to the issues of social injustice correctly can feel overwhelming.
In the last of our five-part webinar series aimed at guiding church leaders and congregation members through the stressors and worries of COVID-19, speaker Dr. Terry Hargrave took a close look at what for many can be a very stressful subject – finances. You can watch the full on-demand webinar here.
The fourth entry in our five-part “Coming to a Place of Peace” webinar series looked at anxiety — and the damaging effects it can have, particularly in the age of COVID-19. Sharon Hargrave, Executive Director of the Boone Center for the Family at Pepperdine University, opened the discussion by examining the difference between anxiety and depression.
Dr. Kelly Haer, Director of the Relationship IQ program at the Boone Center for the Family and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California, answers the most pressing attendee questions from the “When Loneliness Becomes Overwhelming” webinar.
In the third of a five-part webinar series aimed at helping church leaders and their congregations during COVID-19, Dr. Kelly Haer discussed ways to both identify and deal with the loneliness that’s become an almost unavoidable side effect of the Covid-19 crisis. Access the full webinar on-demand here.
What Elite Athletes Can Teach Us About Emotional Health: The Difference Between Performance-Based and Purpose-Based Identity
Adults, young adults and children are facing loss of what many feel they are defined by — jobs and athletic competitions — due to Covid-19. But, while the loss of a job or athletic competition can shake us emotionally, there are definite personal and support strategies for maintaining emotional health during this loss.
Changing the course of marriages strengthens the family, church and culture. While many couples are in quarantine all day, every day together, it is likely they will experience some conflict. One practical way to support a healthier marriage is to walk a couple through the pain and peace cycle.