Family Track at Harbor PBL
Empowering the church to be a voice of wisdom in relationships, marriages, and families.
Thank you for attending the Family Track at Harbor 2019!
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April 30-May 3, 2019
The Boone Center for the Family at Pepperdine is a training and resource center that promotes healthy relationship skills for lives of purpose, service, and leadership. Focusing on the relational and spiritual development of young adults and married couples, the Boone Center oﬀers specialized education and programming to young adults, professionals, and communities of faith to strengthen their own relationships and impact the lives of those they serve.
Wednesday, 8:30 AM
Annette Oltmans is a philanthropist and passionate human rights advocate. Oltmans' personal experiences of recovery and research into the topics of Primary and Double AbuseⓇ inspired her to found the MEND Project in 2016. Her discoveries and writings provide information to religious, institutional, and support communities regarding the correlation between unconscious and conscious abusive behaviors, the trauma they foster, and the generational liability they create. Her writings on the topics of abuse, domestic violence, and bullying have been published by the American Association of Christian Counselors, Teen Vogue, The Orange County Register, and others.
CONGREGATING WITH COVERT EMOTIONAL ABUSE: RISKS, CONSEQUENCES, AND TOOLS:
The physiological consequences of covert emotional abuse are second only to instances of life-threatening physical battery. Victims are speaking up. Media stories and movements like #MeToo, #ChurchToo, and #SilenceIsntSpiritual are providing voices for those who suffer from Covert Emotional and Double AbuseⓇ. Research shows that only 25 percent of pastors think that this occurs within their own congregations. Come learn how to identify this kind of abuse, and learn the most effective ways to help victims and their perpetrators. This workshop offers recognition, response, and healing tools. Join us!
Wednesday, 2 PM and 3:15 PM
Ron Deal is a director at FamilyLife® and founder of Smart StepfamiliesTM. He is a popular conference speaker, licensed marriage and family therapist, and the country's leading author on blended families. Deal speaks around the nation, and his one-minute daily audio feature, FamilyLife Blended, is heard on more than 850 radio outlets nationwide and online. He is a frequent guest in the national media, and his work has been quoted and referenced by news outlets such as the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, and USA Today.
BECOMING STEPFAMILY SMART | 2 pm
Almost two-thirds of couples under 50 have a stepchild or stepparent. Healthy stepfamily living can be rewarding, even redemptive, but you have to side-step the challenges and trust God with the journey. Join one of the country's leading experts on blended families to learn key qualities of godly, healthy stepfamilies. Appropriate for single parents, stepfamily couples, step-grandparents, and those who love them.
MINISTERING TO STEPFAMILIES 101 | 3:15 pm Although 40 percent of American families are blended families, traditional family ministries and marriage education programs do very little to equip stepcouples for healthy stepfamily living. Come learn what stepfamilies need, the fundamentals of stepfamily ministry, and how your church can help break the generational cycle of divorce.
Thursday, 8:30 AM
Kelly Maxwell Haer, Ph.D., is the director of the Relationship IQ program at the Boone Center for the Family. She has a wealth of experience working with young adults in a variety of contexts, including counseling sessions, undergraduate and graduate classrooms, and the church community.
HELP YOUNG ADULTS REDEEM THEIR RELATIONSHIP WITH SOCIAL MEDIA
Social media allows young adults to have more relational connections than ever before; yet this same group has the highest rates of loneliness, anxiety, and depression of any age cohort. Learn how to help young adults use social media and other technologies to build healthy relationships.
Thursday, 9:45 AM –10:45 AM
Leonard Matheson, Ph.D., is the director of research at the Faithful Brain Institute. Matheson authored Your Faithful Brain: Designed for So Much More! to help people understand God's plan for brain development. He recently completed a major study examining the relationships between character strengths and quality of life. Matheson earned his master's degree in psychology from Pepperdine.
PARENTING AND LEADING FOR CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT AND BRAIN HEALTH
The development of the human brain is best guided by character strengths, which research demonstrates are major contributors to adult quality of life. Christian character formation modeled by Jesus should be an important part of every family's and Christian leader's curriculum. Learn how to use Christian principles to nurture healthy adolescents and young adults in your family and congregation.
Thursday, 11 AM – Noon
Connie Horton, Ph.D.,serves as Pepperdine's vice president for student affairs. Horton is a licensed psychologist whose prior roles include Counseling Center director at both Pepperdine University and Illinois Wesleyan University and tenured faculty member at Illinois State University. Horton has a bachelor's degree in psychology from Pepperdine University and a master's degree in counseling from California State University, Fullerton. She earned her doctorate at the University of Texas at Austin.
RESILIENCE: BOUNCING BACK FROM LIFE'S CHALLENGES
Christian people are not exempt from the stresses, challenges, and trials of life. In fact, we are promised that in this world we will have trouble. This workshop will teach physical, cognitive, social, and spiritual practices that can help us navigate those difficult times.
Thursday, 2 PM – 4:15 PM
Mark Yarhouse, Ph.D., is the Rosemarie S. Hughes Endowed Chair and professor of psychology at Regent University, where he directs the Institute for the Study of Sexual Identity. Yarhouse is an award-winning teacher and scholar who has been a part of the Ethics and Public Policy Center think tank in Washington, DC, a consultant on LGBTQ+ issues with the National Institute of Corrections, and currently serves as chair of the task force on LGBTQ+ issues for Division 36 (Psychology of Religion and Spirituality) of the American Psychological Association. He is author or coauthor of several books, including Understanding Gender Dysphoria: Navigating Transgender Issues in a Changing Culture: Homosexuality and the Christian: A Guide for Parents, Pastors, and Friends; and Understanding Sexual Identity: A Resource for Youth Ministry.
LGBTQ+ PRIMER FOR PARENTS AND CHURCH LEADERS,
PART 1: SEXUAL IDENTITY/GAY AND LESBIAN | 2 pm
Definitions of sexual orientation, attraction, and identity will be discussed, as well as how stories about sexual identity can drive young people away from their family and their faith and steps churches can take to create a story of redemption.
LGBTQ+ PRIMER FOR PARENTS AND CHURCH LEADERS,
PART 2: GENDER IDENTITY/TRANSGENDER | 3:15 pm
Gender identity, gender dysphoria, and trends in transgender experiences and emerging gender identities are the focus of Yarhouse's second presentation. Steps in developing a flexible ministry posture for working with young people navigating gender identity concerns in a changing culture will be discussed.
Friday, 9:45–10:45 AM
Terry S. Smith received master's degrees in both counseling and theology, along with a doctorate in personality, religion, and culture from Boston University. Smith is founder and president of Coaching: Life Matters, a nonprofit educational organization committed to removing barriers to healthy relationships. He is the coauthor of Delta Blues from Darkness to Light and has been working with veterans with PTSD for several years.
HOPE AND HEALING FOR VETERANS AT THE HEART TABLE
It is a tragic reality that military veterans and active service people take their own lives nearly every hour of each day. The reasons are complex, but trauma can penetrate the mind, heart, and soul in ways that even our best counseling, medications, and compassionate outreach cannot relieve. Suicide becomes the final option as hope for healing wanes and dies. This workshop will demonstrate how to bring people without hope to a place of light, love,
Friday, 11 AM-Noon
Melissa Symington, Ph.D., graduated from Fuller Theological Seminary and is a clinical psychologist in full-time practice. Her clinical work is driven by a passion to help individuals and couples experience greater levels of aliveness, healing, and intimacy in sexual relationships. Symington has had additional training in sex therapy, and she and her husband, Scott, enjoy speaking at professional conferences, couples retreats, and church settings about healthy sexuality.
CALLED TO BE CONNECTED: TALKING TO YOUR CHURCH ABOUT HEALTHY SEXUALITY AND INTIMACY
Helping children and young adults learn how to appreciate healthy intimacy and sexuality is a must for both church leaders and parents. Mixed messages from TV, social media, and peers often cause confusion about healthy intimacy and open doors for unhealthy sexual relationships and faulty beliefs. Learn how to talk about intimacy at its best to encourage children and young adults to build a solid foundation for marriage.
Friday, 2 PM - 4:15 PM
Terry Hargrave, Ph.D., is the Evelyn and Frank Freed Professor of Marriage and Family Therapy at Fuller Theological Seminary in Pasadena, California. Hargrave is nationally recognized for his pioneering work with intergenerational families and is the founder of Restoration Therapy. He has authored more than 30 professional articles and 14 books including Restoration Therapy: Understanding and Guiding Healing in Marriage and Family Therapy (coauthored with Franz Pfitzer) and 5 Days to a New Marriage (coauthored with Shawn Stoever). Hargrave has presented nationally and internationally on the concepts and processes of family and marriage restoration, intergenerational families, and aging.
Friday, 9:45 AM –10:45 AM
Sharon Hargrave, LMFT, is the executive director of the Boone Center for the Family at Pepperdine University and an affiliate faculty member at Fuller Theological Seminary. She is a licensed marriage and family therapist in both California and Texas. She is also the founder of RelateStrong, a program designed to help both couples and individuals build healthy relationships. Sharon and her husband Terry Hargrave speak nationally and internationally on issues pertaining to couples in ministry, as well as topics regarding marriage, intergenerational relationships, parenting, and the Restoration Therapy model.
CHANGING US: A NEW PERSPECTIVE ON MARRIAGE | 2 pm
While we often believe that marriage is designed for us to help our partner see how he or she needs to change, the truth is that marriage changes us. Embracing the fact that change is good and leads to more peaceful and productive lives helps couples relax in their differences, conflicts, and struggles. This workshop is designed for couples who want to continue to grow in their own relationships or for those who work with young adults who lean toward cohabitation rather than marriage.
THE ARGUMENT FOR MARRIAGE | 3:15 pm
The number of people getting married today is shrinking, and the age at which people marry is getting older all the time. Many young adults don't understand how marriage can be life-giving and contribute to life satisfaction and happiness. Come learn five easy tips that promote marriage in a culture that, even though statistics show most people desire lifelong commitments in a relationship, appears to be marriage weary.