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How to Put on the New Self and Stop Living in Anxiety

Anxiety is something that we do. But what drives that anxiety? Essentially, when we identify the underlying roots of our anxiety, we are discovering our pain cycles. This cycle is the pattern that most of us have operated from for the majority of our lives. One of the ways we can understand it is by taking off the “old self” and putting on the “new self.”


From Pain to Peace: A Healing Exercise for Ministry Leaders

Ministry leadership will trigger your pain. No matter who you are or how agreeable your community is, we can embrace this as an inevitable part of “doing life” with others. There are also challenges that are unique to people in positions of church leadership that can easily envelop them in what we call a pain cycle.


The Value of "Us-ness" in Marriage

When two can look at the relationship as an identity in and of itself — the third identity of “us” — they start to move together in cooperation, not conflict.


5 Troublesome Trademarks of Pornography Use

The prevalence of people turning to pornography worldwide has been on the rise over the last several years and we have found many people use it as a destructive coping mechanism. Often, people utilize porn from a larger desire to hide or to escape, but what are the nuances that really factor into its ability to damage us and our relationships?


What I Learned as a Single Adult

The hardest question faced by singles who desire marriage is often, “How long will I be single?” Uncertainty can become a preoccupation. Many singles do not desire marriage, but here is what to know about those who do.


How to Help Your Children Believe What is True

The Pain Cycle is what Dr. Terry Hargrave, in Restoration Therapy, has named the pattern that can occur when we face stressors and disappointments in life. Too often when these events happen, especially if we’ve had difficult childhoods, we can have feelings that aren’t really true. So how do we help our children believe what is true?


The #1 Statistic on Addiction Concerning Our Children

We tend to think addiction is something that happens outside our own family, and most certainly outside of the Church. The unfortunate reality, however, is that addiction does not discriminate — which means it could very well be affecting those around you each Sunday.


The Best Thing You Can Do For Your Ministry in 2021

Swimming or sinking, we have made it to a new year. For many pastors, church leaders, and lay leaders, the last year has brought seasons of unique difficulty and burnout. How would you like to see your outreach develop in the year ahead? The answer may be more connected to how well you are faring than you might have imagined.


Still Home for the Holidays

This Christmas, families are learning how to be together in new and different ways. From feeling "shut-in" to endless cooking and dishes, here are solutions for the COVID-related dilemmas many of our families and friends are facing this holiday season.


Healthy Sexuality and the Church: Dispelling the Myths

Sex and sexuality are an integral part of our design as individuals and in relationships. However, research suggests 45-50% of individuals or couples report they are having sexual problems.