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The Dating Downside of Being Busy

Our cultural worth is often valued by how many activities or people we have pressing on our time. People constantly talk about how much is on their plate. While many of us are quite busy, telling everyone usually serves only to make them feel you believe you are important and, indirectly, that you don’t have time for them.

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Sliding vs. Deciding: The Downside to Cohabitation Before Marriage

In marriage we should be able to rest secure in the commitment of our spouse and not pursue the other as an idol. In cohabitation you are continually on audition to be the other’s choice. That insecurity makes it difficult to pursue God wholeheartedly, especially as God asks you to be iron—and to be iron for each other.

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The Connection Between Your Earthly Parents and Your Heavenly Father

There is interesting research that finds a correlation between your relationship with your parents, particularly your father, and your initial view of who God is and how much we want a relationship with Him. Father’s Day is approaching and one thing is certain: it is important for our spiritual maturity to be aware of how this connection with our earthly fathers may transfer into our connection with our Heavenly Father.

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Tips for talking with friends when they’re having a hard time

In the variety of reactions and responses across our world sparked by the unjust killing of George Floyd in the last week, we are finding an impact on our relationships. Many of us are left with a variety of questions. Here are some helpful tips for engaging with our friends when facing hard times.

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Resolving Roommate Rivalry

Roommates do not always get along. Other factors, such as differences in personality and expectations, can contribute to roommate discord. Especially in a time when stress may be amplified during the coronavirus pandemic, it is best to avoid these five most common conflict creators among roommates.

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A Good Friend Celebrates Successes

Celebrating, rejoicing, and being proud of our friends is a key part of friendship. Good friends want to see their friends succeed. For more about helping young adults become a better stronger friend, check out our Intentionally Friends module within the Relationship IQ Manual.

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God has Boundaries Too

Boundaries can be difficult for Christians. Sometimes we feel like we should not have boundaries and should give everything we have, including much of our time, to others. There is something heroic, martyr-like, and righteous-sounding about that idea. But this is not how Jesus lived.

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Help! I Disagree with My Parents

The key here is to engage in disagreements with greater balance and respect than you did when you were a child.

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Helpful Tips to Get “Asked Out” on a Date

Often, we put up walls without realizing it as a defense mechanism. Here are some steps that can help you send off more inviting signals.

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So You Messed Up in Your Relationship? Here’s The Keys to Change

God encourages us to remain pure until marriage, but you may come across a young adult who has already been sexually active. Here is the good news—God is a redeemer, knew we would mess up, and made our brains moldable.