Memories are powerful and play a vital role in developing how people view themselves and how they relate to the world. When memories evoke feelings, such as fear, shame, or sadness, people can find themselves stuck in relational patterns with no apparent way out. Memories have the power to construct the narrative of a person’s life--but the brain can change the story.
There is interesting research that finds a correlation between your relationship with your parents, particularly your father, and your initial view of who God is and how much we want a relationship with Him. Father’s Day is approaching and one thing is certain: it is important for our spiritual maturity to be aware of how this connection with our earthly fathers may transfer into our connection with our Heavenly Father.
The key here is to engage in disagreements with greater balance and respect than you did when you were a child.
As children grow into young adults, they can take over more and more of life’s responsibilities that the parents once controlled. Some of these responsibilities parents are glad to give over to, but they may be still trying to hold onto other areas.
Changing the way young adults relate with parents can be difficult because they have been practicing the old way for at least a couple of decades. The good news is that people can change.