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Watch On-Demand: Webinar with Live Q and A on the Pain and Peace During Covid-19

Hosted by Sharon Hargrave, Executive Director of the Boone Center for the Family, and Dr. Terry Hargrave, founder of Restoration Therapy

Nearly 200 people joined the Boone Center for the Family's first in a five-part webinar series to help church leaders during Covid-19. The webinar covered the topic of When Hard Times Produce Pain and provided an introduction to the Pain & Peace Cycle.

Access the webinar on-demand anytime by clicking here.

Discussing the Pain & Peace Cycle's intersection of neuropsychology and theology, the Hargraves pulled on personal experience and examples to illustrate the healing effects of understanding one's Pain & Peace Cycle.

"The exact same situation can cause both joy and pain," Sharon Hargrave explained as she gave a Covid-19 example of her son sheltering-in-place with them together, compared to her daughter who remains in New Jersey. "Where our son being here is very joyful, our daughter and her two kids being away is producing pain."

The difficulty lies in when pain causes us to react to things in a way that is not healthy.

But, turning to the writings of Paul, Terry Hargrave reminded us, ""God gives us the freedom to decide who we are and what we are."

From Ephesians 4:22-24, "You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness."

Terry Hargrave also pointed to a powerful quote from Viktor E. Frankl, a Holocaust survivor and Austrian neurologist and psychiatrist who lived from 1905–1997. Frankl said, "When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves."

They advised that learning self-regulation and what you can do to make yourself feel safe is critical.

"We are the most powerful people to speak to our own identity and our own sense of safety," said Terry Hargrave. "It's a message of hopefulness."

But it is not a change that can be made overnight, they said. These efforts are just like working out. You won't see instant changes. You have to work at it and over time you can see amazing results.

When asked about how church leaders can effectively utilize the Pain & Peace Cycle within their communities, Terry Hargrave provided a recommendation of empathy.

"Remember, from the pulpit is a powerful place to show vulnerability and your own pain," he concluded

To learn more about the Pain & Peace Cycle, visit the Boone Center for the Family's webpage with a video overview and numerous real-life example videos.

To access the webinar on-demand, click here to register.