Group Resources
Welcome to the RelateStrong Online Group Resources hub!
Resources on this webpage will help you lead your small group on a week-to-week basis. Leaders who have purchased a RelateStrong leader guide can access supplemental teaching videos for the group to watch in session, featuring the creators of this material, Sharon and Terry Hargrave, and veteran RelateStrong instructors. You can also download handouts for your group.
How do I use these videos?
Watch the teaching videos with your group instead of teaching the psycho-educational material presented each week. You will find the password to unlock each session video in the leader guide on page 9.
Don't have leader guides? Purchase them here.
RelateStrong | Couples
A strong marriage provides the foundation for many couples to be effective leaders in the world. Most couples, especially in the church feel pressure to look put together. Sometimes, in order to look that way, they hide the real issues, avoiding help, and just pushing through. Often that happens at the expense of their ministries, their families, or their physical and emotional health.
But what if it were possible for marriages to be restored to the dynamic partnership they ought to have? In the RelateStrong | Couples course, get ready to learn more about yourself, your spouse, and how to care for who you are together.
Introduction
Sharon Hargrave, Founder of RelateStrong & LMFT, offers a welcome to your RelateStrong course, along with an overview of what you can expect from this 8-week course.
Session 1: The Us-ness of Relationship
The "us" is the relationship that lies between the two spouses. In this session, Sharon and Terry Hargrave unpack the unique entity of "us-ness" that comes into being from relationship with others and discuss relational decision-making frameworks to care for our "us-ness".
Session 2: Learning the Pain Cycle
The ways in which a couple interacts during conflict is a key determinant to a successful marriage. In Session 2, RelateStrong leaders Joanna and Matthew Raabsmith explain how cycles of emotional pain and coping responses play out in couples. Check out the demonstration videos to learn how to chart a couple's pain cycle with your group.
Session 3: Love and Trust
This week, learn with RelateStrong leader Meghan Eaken how love and trust are the core components of healthy relationships. Session 3 invites participants to go deeper in their understanding of their pain cycles to identify what stands in the way of improving their relationships.
Session 4: The Peace Cycle
People do not always live out of their pain cycles. In Session 4, Joanna and Matthew Raabsmith teach the framework of the peace cycle by steering us toward what is true. Check out the demonstration videos to view an example of how to draw a peace cycle for each couple in your group.
Session 5: The Four Steps
Discover how to stop the pain cycle and enter into the peace cycle. In this session, RelateStrong leader Migum Gweon introduces "The Four Steps." With practice, this process enables the couple to move out of their pain cycle and into their peace cycle. Check out the demonstration videos to learn how to apply the Four Steps to an area of conflict in marriage.
Session 6: Recognizing Our Personality Differences
Despite a married couple being "one flesh" and nurturing their "us-ness," they are still different people. In Session 6, Meghan Eaken shares how to find out and celebrate the personality qualities among couples in the group.
Session 7: Using Our Spiritual Gifts
Our uniqueness lies not only in our experience and personality but in the spiritual gifts with which God has equipped believers. In this session, Sharon Hargrave describes how couples can encourage and enjoy each other's gifting; and stirs spouses to consider how they might draw on their gifts in tandem.
Session 8: Dreaming of the New "Us"
It's time to celebrate what you've achieved and look toward the future. In the final session, Migum Gweon outlines how to discuss the vision that each couple has for the future as well as the strengths they have to get there.
RelateStrong | Individuals
Relationships start the moment we're born. Over the years, we learn different ways to be in relationship. Each experience helps us discover a pattern of relating to others that shapes who we are and what our relationships look like.
There is an accepted mentality that says if a relationship becomes challenging, it is time to step back. What if, instead, our relationships became the breeding ground for personal growth, God's sanctification process, and authentic connection? In the RelateStrong | Individuals course, get ready to help individuals listen to the opportunities for personal and relational growth-- and leave transformed.
Introduction
Sharon Hargrave, Founder of RelateStrong & LMFT, offers a welcome to your RelateStrong course, along with an overview of what you can expect from this 8-week course.
Session 1: The Us-ness of Relationship
The "us" is the relationship that lies between two individuals. In this session, Sharon and Terry Hargrave unpack the unique entity of "us-ness" that comes into being from relationship with others and discuss relational decision-making frameworks to care for our "us-ness".
Session 2: Learning the Pain Cycle
How individuals interact during conflict is key to the sustainability and depth of that particular relationship. In Session 2, RelateStrong leaders Joanna and Matthew Raabsmith explain how cycles of emotional pain and coping responses play out in relationships. Check out the demonstration video to learn how to chart an individual's pain cycle with your group.
Session 3: Love and Trust
This week, learn with RelateStrong leader Meghan Eaken how love and trust are the core components of healthy relationships. Session 3 invites participants to go deeper in their understanding of their pain cycles to identify what stands in the way of improving their relationships.
Session 4: The Peace Cycle
People do not always live out of their pain cycles. In Session 4, Joanna and Matthew Raabsmith teach the framework of the peace cycle by steering us toward what is true. Check out the demonstration video to view an example of how to draw a peace cycle for each person in your group.
Session 5: The Four Steps
Discover how to stop the pain cycle and enter into the peace cycle. In this session, RelateStrong leader Migum Gweon introduces "The Four Steps." With practice, this process enables a person to move out of their pain cycle and into their peace cycle. Check out the demonstration video to learn how to apply the Four Steps to an area of conflict in an individual's relationship.
Session 6: Recognizing Our Personality Differences
Despite being one church body in Christ and nurturing their "us-ness," we are still different people. In Session 6, Meghan Eaken shares how to find out and celebrate the personality qualities among one another.
Session 7: Using Our Spiritual Gifts
Our uniqueness lies not only in our experience and personality but in the spiritual gifts with which God has equipped believers. In this session, Sharon Hargrave describes how we can encourage and enjoy each other's gifting; and stirs individuals to consider how they might draw on their gifts in tandem with a friend or colleague.
Session 8: Dreaming of the New You
It's time to celebrate what you've achieved and look toward the future. In the final session, Migum Gweon outlines how to discuss the vision that each person has for the future as well as the strengths they have to get there.
